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Throw Away Thoughts Of Imaginary Things
We have little idea how to throw away imaginary thoughts and false expectations. We go to relationships with many demands and expectations. When these expectations are not met, the so-called love we have been feeling turns to hate, resentment, or feeling we have been made a fool of. Living in this manner, it is difficult to encounter real love.
When this pattern repeats too many times, some become unable to be in a relationship and live protecting themselves from failure and pain. These individuals may not be aware of the deeper problem -- that they have been caught in the grip of counterfeit love, which grabs its victims and leave them emptier than before.
Let us stop and look more deeply at this source of pain in relationships. Counterfeit love includes the idea that love is a feeling, not a way of life. It is confusion between excitement, dependence, attachment, and love. Real love does not fluctuate. There is no rejection of another person if they do not meet our needs. The nature of our relationship with them may change, but we do not hate or become bitter.
In counterfeit love, when we have strong feelings towards someone, we immediately assume that we are in love. As all feelings change most people are convinced that love cannot last. They do not realize that it is the nature of feelings to change, and also the nature of counterfeit love. Real love never discards anybody; it knows and accepts that true relationship is based upon something deeper than feelings that come and go.