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Zen In Action
Exercise: Unmasking Counterfeit Love
Describe what love means to you and how a person has to be for you to love him. Describe some situations in which you felt you had love, only to be disappointed. What did you take to be love that might have merely been infatuation, need, or fantasy? In your present relationship, for a week, give up one expectation a day. Let the person and relationship be just as they are. Do the same for yourself. See how you and your partner begin to feel. Keep a diary about this. You'll be amazed.
Excerpted from Zen Miracles: Finding Peace in an Insane World © 2002 with permission from John Wiley & Sons Inc.