While the progression isn't exactly neat and tidy, once you've survived ground zero and worked your way through most of the rebuilding of yourself and your community, you'll be ready to begin settling into your new life. This is when you can start reaping the benefits of all of your hard work, all of the grieving and reassessment and restructuring.
While you can't change your past decisions, now is the time to change your expectations for your future relationships.
It's time to get a move on -- with your life, that is. Suddenly you find that, if you've really processed and accepted the past, you're raring to jump headlong into your new life -- with a vigor and enthusiasm you never could have imagined before. This is the time to really assess your possibilities and focus your attention on the present and the future. There'll likely be some stumbling blocks, but all in all it'll be full speed ahead.
How Can I Get Closure?
How do you know when the post-breakup process has come to an end? It's called closure, and it's different for everyone. It's a personal experience, based on your own self-reflection. No one can control how or when it will happen. It's a feeling that develops when you've taken the time to examine our past experiences and your feelings about them.