Breakup Survival

Week Three: Revamping Your Social Scene

On the other hand, some of your friends may surprise you with a negative reaction. Even if they know all the problems that existed in your relationship, they may express dismay at the ending or be too uncomfortable with the suffering they see you going through to be able to help. At this point, you can either seek comfort from more supportive people in your life, or be direct with these friends about what you need from them.

The truth is, though, many women also find that the lack of effort put into their friendships during their relationship comes back to haunt them. This makes asking for help very difficult, but if you're going to get what you need, you may have to come right out and ask for it. Again, being clear with your friends about your expectations is the best way to ensure that you get their support. It may be a little scary at first, but you'll probably be surprised to see how quickly your friends will come around. In fact, many women find that even distant friends will come to their aid.

Family Responses

Because of an entirely different set of hopes and expectations, your family might react to this news in any number of ways. They may be very happy about the breakup because they, like your friends, saw the problems you'd been dealing with in the relationship. Or, they may be sad about the breakup if there were expectations of permanence for the relationship. They may have wanted you to get married and start a family, and they may think you've taken a big step back from those events. They may also be saddened to lose your ex, to whom they'd grown close. Your parents may think of your ex as a son or daughter and feel the loss keenly.

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