The next day reality kicks in, and it hits with full force. Your aim today is simply to survive it because " He's gone, I'm alone" will run in a continuous loop in your head. Again, surround yourself with people who care. True friends will let you tag along wherever they go. Take them up on it. If they're visiting their granny in an old people's home, go with them. Heck, follow them to the loo if they take too long. The other reason why you need to be around friends is this: The urge to call him, see him, e-mail him, text him will be almost overwhelming. Don't do it. If there was hope of reconciliation, the person who ended the relationship will be the one to make contact. Not to put too fine a point on it, but that's not you.
Surviving a Breakup: Week Two
Pick up the phone and don't hang it up until you've booked something for every possible second of the next two weekends and weeknights. Come clean and tell people you've split up, even if you do play it cool and insist you don't care. If you don't want to talk about it, say so. People won't want to upset you—and they will want to spoil you. Let them.
You're not going to like what I'm going to suggest now, but it's a crucial step: I want you to gather up all the couple-y stuff you collected throughout your relationship. The cards, the CDs, DVDs, letters, his old toothbrush, photographs—anything and everything. Put it all in a trash bag and shove it in a cupboard out of sight. Put his e-mails into a special folder and don't open it. Delete his old text messages. Stop going online to see if he's online. Don't go to any events where you might run into him. Don't go to places that remind you of him. In other words, avoid anything that makes you think of your ex and any contact with him. Why? Because you really are kidding yourself if you think lying around listening to "your song" and re-reading old love letters is going to help you heal or magically get him back. It won't.