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Our thoughts were already with Huma Abedin, the wife of New York Congressman Anthony Weiner, after her husband’s embarrassing confession that he sent racy photos and texts to women online for years, including during their marriage of less than a year. We wondered: Would she stay with him? Or was she sending a message by not standing by her husband’s side at his tearful June 6 news conference?
Now our thoughts go out to Abedin even more, as The New York Times reports the 35-year-old is in the early stages of pregnancy with the couple’s first child.
Your first pregnancy is supposed to be one of the happiest times in your life, not one of the most stressful. How will Abedin’s pregnancy affect her decisions? Would she have been more likely to leave the marriage if she wasn’t pregnant? Will she leave anyway, or will she forgive her husband and try to make it work? And how do all those years working alongside Hillary Rodham Clinton, who watched her own husband face embarrassing public sex scandals, impact her decision? Abedin is still working with Clinton, and reportedly left on an overseas trip with the secretary of state as news of her pregnancy broke.
Asked about his wife on Monday, Weiner said they were not splitting up and told reporters, “We will weather this.” But since his confession, more damaging stories have surfaced, including allegations that Weiner coached a porn star on ways to cover up their online relationship.
This story, along with another recent case of a politician admitting to some very bad things (see: Arnold Schwarzenegger fathering a love child), had us debating what’s forgivable and what’s not. Would you forgive your partner if he sexted with a woman online? Would you send him with bags packing if he slept with another woman? Is an emotional affair just as disloyal as a physical sexual relationship? And what factors would determine whether you would leave or not? Would kids -- or being pregnant -- affect your decision? Does it depend on your financial situation, what your family would say, or your religious beliefs?
We’re curious to know how women feel about infidelity -- especially in the Facebook and Twitter age of so-called "online relationships." What constitutes cheating in the online world, and how does an increasingly tough economy impact decisions by women on what they will accept and what they won’t?
We want to hear from you. Please take our poll on infidelity to let your voice be heard, and be sure to check back near the end of this month for the results.
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