Zrica: What are your thoughts on arranged marriages?
EJGraff: Great question about arranged marriages. They work when people's expectations are *not* to find a best friend, but to find a partner who will help them meet certain social and financial expectations: making a living, passing on the family name or preserving the culture. In fact, arranged marriages are more common, historically and even now, than love-matches. Although most of our ancestors got to choose their own mates, unless they came from wealthy families, the more money your family had, the less choice. If you worked, you had more choice.
Cmtdarden: E.J., thank you for joining us for tonight -- I really enjoyed it. Everyone, thank you for joining our special guest author chat with E.J. Graff, author of What Marriage is For. If we didn't get to your question, don't forget she is hosting the board as well.