What Men and Women Really Want for Valentine's Day: iVillage.com

Cue the candy, the cards, the flowers, the chocolate — but wait, is that really what women want on Valentine's Day? And how about men — are they just doing it to please us, or are they into the holiday hoopla, too? There's no question that Valentine's Day has become pressure-filled for both couples and singles alike, says Logan Levkoff, MS, a sexologist and relationship expert. "Those red heart and chocolate gift boxes do make us anxious to find romance—even when we're content with being single."

It's an all-out scramble for Valentine's Day plans — lest we feel like being the sole lame duck sitting home dateless on the national night of romance (thanks, Hallmark!). Single girls go out in groups; guys even meet up with friends for drinks to avoid the "solo on Valentine's Day" stigma. But according to Levkoff, spending the night with pals is actually a healthy way for singles to respond to the pressure. "Hanging out with friends is always better than being on a date with someone you aren't interested in," she says.

Fair enough. But how do couples get sucked into the stress, as well, when they already have somebody special? For women, it's simple: "We spend so much time taking care of everyone else's needs. Valentine's Day is the one day where we know it's just about us," says Levkoff. Plus, the real world is romance-starved; even basic common courtesy and chivalry can seem like endangered species in modern society. Many women are still raised on fairytales that lead us to believe that there are princes out there who are supposed to treat us like princesses, but most men aren't exactly riding around on white horses ready to sweep us off our feet — even if they have already put a ring on our finger.

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