What Men Find Sexy: 20 Simple (but Surprising) Ways to Turn Him On

Real men spill about what they find sexy in women -- it's not always what you think!

11. Wear your heart on your sleeve: "I was sitting next to a girl I had just started dating, and unconsciously touched her forearm. She got goose bumps, and when I noticed, she smiled, a bit embarrassed. This was the most sincere compliment I could ever imagine getting and made me extremely glad to be with her. A woman with a caring attitude is sexy." --Jim, 33



 

12. Hold him tight: "Sometimes, a hug can be the sexiest thing. When our bodies are so close, every level of communication from our heads down to our toes is engaged. If it clicks, well, that does it for me." --Patrick, 26, producer



 

13. Just smile -- really! "The first time my girlfriend smiled at me from across a crowded room, I knew that I wanted to be with her. Showing that she liked me totally fired up my desire." --Norm, age 36, sales associate



 

14. Write a sexy love note: "When we were dating, my girlfriend wrote a note that said: 'Thank you for introducing me to the joy of having my toes sucked.' Reading it triggered my memory of the electricity in her body when we were together." --Patrick, 26, Web producer



 

15. Show off your talents: "I remember having dinner with a group at this outdoor restaurant on Sunset, in Los Angeles. My girlfriend was talking about her upcoming audition for acting school, but then she totally surprised me. She stood up and did her monologue, and the best part was, it was really funny! I was so impressed that she would get up and perform. It totally turned me on that she didn't care about a lot of people watching." --Dave, 33, snowboarding instructor



 

16. Try something new: "My girlfriend was staying at one of the fanciest hotels in Chicago (where we both lived). She was there doing business, but snuck me in to spend the night. We had a big fancy bed and access to room service. It was so exciting. Suddenly she looked me right in the eye and told me exactly what she wanted me to do to her, explicitly. This wasn't in keeping with her personality, so it showed me that she had a sexual side she was comfortable sharing with me, and that she wanted me. The change of pace that night was exciting and magical. --Ben, 25, journalist



 

17. Be suggestive: "I was out with my girlfriend for an anniversary dinner at a very nice restaurant. She was wearing a skirt and black stockings. During the middle of our meal she leaned over and mentioned that she forgot something at home -- her underwear! I looked down, and she had pulled her skirt up just enough for me to see that she was telling the truth. I was lucky not to crash the car on our way home!" --David, 25, attorney



 

18. Put aside your inhibitions: "While we were out together, my wife let me know she was wearing very seductive lingerie. Later, the outfit itself was so sexy to see. But what seduced me was the fact that I know she doesn't have a great body image. She wore something that she didn't think she looked good in because I would love it. And of course, she looked great!" --nos482, 31, attorney



 

19. Indulge his quirks: "I'm a huge ketchup freak. So one day the woman I was dating put together this package for me, and instead of surrounding all my goodies in some fancy paper, she filled the bag with ketchup packets. She showed she was paying attention to my little weird quirks and such, and I thought that was the cutest thing ever!" --Josh, 26, portfolio manager



 

20. Help with the tough tasks: "The morning after I threw a wild party, my wife (then girlfriend) helped us clean up the huge mess, even though some of it had actually made me gag! I knew then that she would stick by me -- and that I felt the same way. That was also the morning that I first said 'I love you' to her." --nos482, 31, attorney

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