Scenario: Your 13-month-old is playing quietly in the Pack 'n Play in your bedroom. You and your hubby are on the bed ogling the baby when it mutually occurs that perhaps you should be ogling at each other instead. You start making out, only to find the little one standing upright, looking straight at you and making sounds that can only be described as...cheering you on.
The Rule: "Your child might feel fear, especially if he's around 2 years old," says Borba. "What you and your husband experience as sharing love, your child might see or hear as "Daddy hurting Mommy.'" Beyond that, Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First and He Comes Next, reminds us that a little space is good for sex: "Being where your baby's big eyes can see anything and everything can take you from hot to not, especially for a mom who needs parts of her brain associated with stress and anxiety to deactivate in order for her to feel sexual."
What You Do: Luckily, Pack 'n Plays are meant to be packed up and moved. Put the baby (or yourselves) safely in another room. If the baby is awake, and in the room with you, try distracting him with a favorite toy, just hold the hot and heavy passion for later and keep things simmering with subtle cuddles and coos.