Consider the Options
If you have realistic expectations and a highly regarded professional but still feel dissatisfied with the results, the first step is to talk with the counselor. Discuss your concerns. Ask for his or her opinion about the progress. Ask if anything could be done to accelerate or improve the outcome. You shouldn't expect miracles, but there should be improvement or at least an explanation about what to expect. Maybe you need more frequent or family sessions, or even a higher level of care -- perhaps day treatment or residential treatment services. If you are still dissatisfied with the process and can't work it out, you could seek a second opinion or even change counselors.
Most of all, don't throw up your hands and despair. Ultimately, troubled children need a chance to talk in order to sort through their feelings and change their behavior. The process does take time.