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If your paycheck makes a larger contribution to your bank account than your husband’s, you may want to ask what he’s really doing when he says he’s “working late.”
According to a study by Cornell University researcher Christin Munsch, when women earn more than men, it increases the chances that their husbands will have an affair. In the study of more than 2,500 men and women, 7 percent of men cheated (compared to 3 percent of women). Of those 7 percent, they were more likely to cheat if they felt emasculated by their partner’s earning power.
“Nothing makes a man feel like ‘the man’ like a sexual conquest,” Munsch says.
Huh? The results of this study are jaw-dropping to me. Should women scale back their success to make their men feel more manly? Definitely not. Maybe these (select few) men should evolve a bit and realize that who brings home the bacon is less than being able to eat it together. Is a sexual conquest worth the emotional collateral? This “act of manhood” could end your relationship and destroy the trust that’s crucial to any healthy marriage. There are plenty of ways for men to feel masculine that don’t put their marriages in jeopardy. Enroll in a martial arts class; take up hunting; play golf with the guys. Anything other than infidelity, which can torpedo your marriage and your family.
Munsch goes on to point out that men who are happy in the relationship, or have deep religious convictions, are less likely to stray regardless of who earns how much. So I guess the questions that this study raises for women are: Is your marriage happy? And if not, is there something that can be done do to remedy that? Or is this study another way of “blaming the victim” when in reality, we need to stop giving men convenient excuses for being cheating?
What do you think? Is there ever a reason to cheat? Chime in below!