Drug use is a topic that every parent hopes she won't have to deal with. But if or when you do discover that your teen and her friends have been using drugs, wishing that the situation will just go away is the last topic you should try. Recently on Parent Soup, a mom of a young teen girl found out that her daughter's best friend had recently gotten in trouble for doing drugs. Justifiably worried about her daughter as well as her friend, this mom asked her fellow parents of teens for their advice on how to handle the situation -- should she break up her daughter's friendship? How could she be supportive of and firm with her daughter at the same time? Below are there best words of advice. If you find yourself in a similar situation, we hope that these wise words will help you navigate the path.
"I'm not sure if it is possible to remain friends without getting involved with the bad things the girl does. I think it will be impossible to control what your daughter does when she's not at home. My daughter had problems with drugs for about two years. I'm very happy that she was able to stand up and say, 'I will not do this anymore.' She was friends with a girl, and (I'm not blaming the other girl for anything that happened) every time they got together they did drugs. Needless to say, they are not doing things together anymore, since the other girl still parties and I think does drugs still. My daughter was 14 when she started, we went through anything from stealing, taking my special birthday gift and selling it for drugs, dealing with the police, court, and even ending up at the hospital. You can suggest to your daughter the effects a friend can have, but ultimately she decides to choose her friends. I also suggest that you remain a support for the other girl, let her know how you feel, but that you don't support her behavior. I would never allow drugs, cigarettes or alcohol in my house. These things are just a tool to cover how we feel and the problems we have. I hope the best for you and your daughter; be there for her no matter what."