"I am going though this now, I found out that my daughter's friend was taking speed and smoking. I talked to my daughter and found out it really bothered her about her friend. So I explained to her that we have friends for a reason, and her reason was to be a real friend and try to get her to get the help she needs, and be there when she is needed. It seems to be working."
"This is a tough one. First, have you had a serious talk with your daughter on how she feels about her friend's behaviors. I do not think your daughter will not be affected by her friend's behavior. Please do not kid yourself. They are so vulnerable at this age. Also, your daughter may or may not be honest with you. I suggest that you let your daughter know exactly how you feel about this situation. When they are teens, they do listen to their parents, even though they pretend not to. Also, she needs guidance and someone to help her be strong enough to do what is right. My daughter was involved in a similar situation last year. It took a few weeks, but my daughter finally viewed the situation as I did, and told the girl not to bother her any more. You are smart to not leave them unsupervised. But they can make lots of plans when they are together. Be very cautious and very wise. Let your daughter know that her privileges are in danger if anything more happens."
"As a mother, you have a right to decide who your daughter spends her time with. If your daughter's friend is involved with bad things, especially when it comes to legal issues, then it is only a matter of time before the friend tests your daughter's 'strength in friendship' to back her up in other serious matters. Friends have a way of influencing others into making the same choices as they are. I realize that you think of this girl like a daughter, but if you come straight out and say that you are not allowing your daughter to be around her due to her behaviors and bad choices, it may be an eye opener to her. Not only would you be saving your daughter from a troubled path, but you may just set the girl on a straight one as well."