Q: My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago because he said that he ''has changed'' and doesn't feel about me the way he used to. That's all well and good, but he also told me that he needs to finish school and is not thinking about marriage (the subject came up one day) and he doesn't want us to live together. Now it is my understanding that he is dating his school adviser, who is eight years older than him and has a child. He of course denies this. He says that they are just ''hanging out.'' He's also telling me that he still wants to be friends, and he's telling my friends that I am such a great person and he doesn't want to lose the friendship. The next thing I know, he calls me nasty names. Since he called me the C-word, I have not talked to him. I miss him, but I don't know how I feel about him anymore. Our relationship was great. It's the breaking up that's so messy.
So why is it all men I date treat me like crap when we break up, even though they say I am such a great person? Can I kill them all, or would that be wrong? My advice to myself is to forget about him and get on with my life, but then everyone has to ask me about him and tell me what they know about him even when I ask them not to. It is very difficult to not see these people because I see them at work. What's a girl to do?