Why Parents Indulge

Today's parents are doing a great job. Compared to earlier generations, we are emotionally closer to our kids, they confide in us more, we have more fun with them, and we know more about the science of child development. But we are also too indulgent. We give our kids too much and expect too little of them. Why? Because we want our children to be happy.

In our eagerness to spare our children pain, we often fail to realize that their happiness as adults is largely dependent on the tools we give them—tools that will allow them to develop emotional maturity, to be honest with themselves, to be empathetic, to take initiatives, to delay gratification, to learn from failure and move on, to accept their flaws, and to face the consequences when they've done something wrong. We need to prepare our kids for the time when they will be responsible for themselves, by helping them develop the healthy attitudes and good habits that are character's foundation. And to do that, we must stop over indulging them both materialistically and emotionally.

This four-step workshop will not only teach you how to raise children of character, it will help you gain back control of your family and your home. You'll discover why you may be indulging your child, and learn how to make important and significant changes in your parenting behavior—set limits without feeling guilty, teach your children self-control and fight back against greediness.

But don't get the wrong idea: this workshop is not meant as a morality lesson. Rather, the goal of this workshop is to help you learn to combine the best of both worlds—emotional closeness with our kids and the ability to set limits.


What's Wrong With Indulging Kids?
By protecting our children from failure, adversity, and pain, we deprive them of the opportunity to develop a realistic sense of their strengths and limitations, and to learn important coping skills. Indulged children are often less able to cope with stress, for example, because their parents have created an atmosphere where their whims are indulged, and where they have always assumed that life should be a bed of roses. The body cannot learn to adapt to stress unless it experiences it.

Indulged children can also be at risk of being self-centered, angry, depressed, spoiled, envious, overly competitive and driven or, on the flip side, unmotivated. They may lack self-control, and thus be more likely to get into trouble with drugs, alcohol, and risky sex.

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