When natural consequences won't work, logical consequences can be used as an alternative to spanking. The best thing about logical consequences is that you can tie them directly to the behavior. So when Bobby writes on a freshly painted wall with his crayons, a logical consequence would be to have him clean the marks. Now Bobby learns how to take responsibility for repairing his mistake.
Keep children informed. Temper tantrums are a common reason for spanking. When children feel powerless in a situation, they often use a tantrum to regain power. The parent, feeling threatened and out of control, too, uses force to bring the child back in line. By informing the child ahead of time to expect a change of scene or situation, the parent can easily avert the tantrum and the spanking. Instead of telling your child you will be leaving the toy store at a moment's notice, tell him that you will be leaving in a few minutes. This allows the child to prepare for the change.
Lead them not into temptation. Children are born explorers and seem naturally to gravitate to the most breakable or dangerous items. You may have fully childproofed your house, but what about those homes you visit? If you make sure you have a toy or other distraction handy, you can divert your child's attention from Aunt Bessie's fine china without using a slap on the wrist or bottom. If the diversion doesn't work, you should physically remove your child from the scene of a possible accident.