Why Won't He Say I Love You?

We may not understand why, but it's well known that men have a harder time expressing their feelings than women. When it comes to love, a lot of men do fall hard and fast… but even more just want to duck and run for cover. If you love him and you've been together for a while, you might be questioning whether you both really feel the same way about each other. He may just be waiting for the right time to say those three magic words. Or, he may just be deliberately avoiding them. Here are the top 10 ways men avoid saying "I love you."

10. Respond with a less committal remark

Responding with a toned-down "I really care about you" is probably the next best thing to being straight up with her on your feelings about the big "I love you." It may actually be even better since your position here is stated simply and isn't really conducive to further conversation. Sure, she's bound to be a little put out by this half-stepper, but she'll also be getting the message in a caring and reciprocated manner.

9. Lighten the atmosphere

This is a preventive measure — forget it if the words have already left her mouth. But if you see them coming, cracking a joke or doing whatever else has gotten a laugh in the past can be just enough to ground some of the electricity in the air. It can be tough to rustle up your A-game on such short notice, but try not to sound forced. If she's the intuitive type (what girlfriend isn't?), she may smell a rat… one of the commitment-fearing variety.

8. Tell her something serious and personal

If your comment is serious and personal enough, it will detract from the moment. It will also help get you out of trouble for not addressing her endearing statement — clearly you were struggling with this other thought far too deeply to have been paying attention at the time. Be careful, though: Her being there for you in your time of need can be like having a giant, radioactive "X" on your rooftop during an "I love you" air raid.

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