That You Love Him Just As He Is (Because He's Not Going to Change)
What irritates you about your guy now will really grate on you after you're married. He's a total slob? A night owl when you're an early bird? Don't kid yourself into thinking he'll change once you're hitched -- that's a blueprint for disappointment, says sex therapist Lisa Paz. "Assume that any negative qualities you're seeing will remain negative, and be realistic about what you're willing to live with," she says. So decide what's a dealbreaker and what's not before your boyfriend becomes your husband.