You’re crying. You’re screaming. Is it any wonder why you don’t feel particularly hot and bothered right after a fight?
“Women need to resolve conflict completely before they can move on and feel sexual. They need to feel that any conflict in their relationship is minimal and manageable,” says Orbuch.
After a fight, women need reassurance that the man isn't going to abandon her, adds Lieberman. “Once she feels reassured by talking or cuddling, then she is open to sex that is slow, affectionate and passionate.” Gentle is key!