Sad but True: Women Usually Have Sex Out of Obligation

It's too bad pleasure comes last for many women, a lot of sex can help them look 10 years younger!

How many times a week are you having sex? No matter what the number, I pretty much guarantee you it’s less than 77-year-old Peter Kranz of Darien, Conn. According to WebMD, Kranz and his wife (also 77) get frisky twice a day. Twice a day! Meanwhile, a new study reports the rest of us can’t even eek out twice a week.

According to a new WomenTALK survey by HealthyWomen, you’re likely getting laid once a week or less. (Less is none, right?) The study of over 1,000 women found that 66 percent of us are lucky if we cop a feel once in any given week. More depressing than that, the study also revealed that lucky isn’t exactly the sentiment we experience when we do get down and dirty. Turns out, women are having sex to placate our partners, rather than to satisfy our own sexual urges. Jeez, we sure hope Mrs. Kranz isn’t doing the deed out of wifely duty.

Course, some sexual health experts like Ian Kerner, founder of, argues that charity sex is better than nothing at all. According to Kerner, taking one for the team helps reestablish a connection when both partners are distracted by chores, work, parenting and everything else that makes sex fall to the bottom of our priority list. Instead of checking our husband off our to-do list, and feeling resentful the entire time, we should regard sex as something we’re doing for ourselves as well. And the hope is, once we’re halfway through the session, we’re having a good time, too.

"The new research shows that women really don't understand the physical benefits of an active sex life," said Elizabeth Battaglino Cahill, R.N., executive director of HealthyWomen. "Beyond the benefit of forming a closer bond with her partner, an active sex life can decrease stress, strengthen pelvic floor muscles, increase immune system function and burn calories."

Another boon? It’s good for our looks. According to research reported with the survey results, regular lovemaking might as well be the fountain of youth. A study at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital in Scotland found that women who have sex four or more times a week look up to 10 years younger than their actual age. If that doesn’t make you want to hop in the sack ASAP, well, we’re not sure what will. After all, research on tanning and skin cancer shows that vanity is the best way to get through to women. Where threats of skin cancer won’t make women stop tanning, pictures of wrinkles and age spots will.

So if a better relationship with your partner or less-stressed outlook don’t revive your sex drive, post a picture of yourself from 10 years ago beside your bed -- and the next time your partner tries to cuddle up to you, remember that you’re just three and a half minutes away from a healthier and more youthful glow.

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