"I Missed My Baby's First Word!" Moms Share How to Handle Missed Milestones

When my baby starting pushing himself up on all fours, I knew crawling wasn't far behind. I also knew that, as a working mom, there was a chance I would miss it -- so I gave my husband strict orders to lie to me if that milestone occurred while I was at work. I was only half-kidding.

Sure enough, I came home one day to discover that my boy had progressed from doing a slithering belly-scoot forward to a full-on hands and knees crawl. And my first thought was this: Oh my god, he's crawling! Not, Oh, he did that earlier today. Whatever. Sure, there was a tiny part of me that was a little sad, but mostly I felt excitement. Excitement over what I was witnessing at that moment, and the proud-mama joy of seeing my baby do something he hadn't quite been able to do the day before. It wasn't any less exciting than when I watched him roll over -- yes, for the first time -- a few months earlier.

Now, if I miss his first (non-couch-assisted) steps? You bet I'll be bummed (note to hubs: A little white one is still acceptable in this instance!), but I won't beat myself up over it. How do other working mamas feel about missing milestones? Here's what some iVillage moms had to say:

"Make it your own milestone when you are there. That's what counts." -- Maria

"I did...but I didn't let it count in his baby book. The word *I* heard was listed as his first!" -- Adrianne

"We have a great daycare. They never told us she did a milestone first until we told them she did it for us. So her firsts always felt like firsts for us." --Laura

"I missed my first daughter's first word and my youngest daughter's first steps because I was at work." -- Jessie

"My daughter took her first steps while I was upstairs sleeping from working the night shift. It sucks but you can't help it being a working mom." --Heather

"We had an agreement with our daycare...they didn't tell us about any firsts so when we saw it for the first time...it was the first time! No guilt." -- Rebecca

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