If asked, "Do you want to be a millionaire?" many of us would answer with a resounding, "Final answer, yes!" But would you marry to get that money? As the show Who Wants to Marry a Multi-Millionaire? prepares to air, we put this question to iVillagers. Some of you are for it, some have been there, done that, while others say, "Not in a million years!" Would you marry for money?
If there's a bachelor out there waving around a million dollars, send him iVillager rebecque's way! Here's her response to the "Would you marry for money?" question: "Yes. Today. Where is he and how much has he got?"
Even though she's proud of being a strong, capable woman who has been supporting herself for years, iVillager pvlstar is tempted to marry for money, if only to get her career going. "I have been struggling for many years in pursuit of a career in opera," she explains, "and am finding that it's the people who have money behind them who are getting places, whether or not they have the best voices. What's the use of having a 'world-class voice,' as I'm constantly told I have, if I can't get noticed by the people who count? So, yes, I'd marry for money at this point. After all, having the career would make me happy."
iVillager pzaz says marrying for money is a good backup plan. Her opinion: "The first time should be for love. If that doesn't work out, go for the money!"
Been There, Done That
While marrying a man for money does indeed have its rewards, most iVillagers who have been down that road wouldn't go back, except those who were lucky to find love along the way.
iVillager sdchap once had a relationship with a man who showered her with gifts -- a car, diamonds, clothes, shoes, you name it. "It was great while I had it," she says, "but the one thing I didn't have that I really wanted was someone who loved me and whom I loved in return."
When iVillager macant was married, she was looking for love, too. "I married for what I thought was love," she says. "When the love was gone and we had money, I wasn't happy living like that, so I left."
iVillager saltnpep also left a rich husband -- more because of his attitude than for lack of love. "Something about having money makes men strut around feeling all invincible and irresistible to all living women!"
Fortunately for iVillager rudi1184, marrying for money worked out for the best. "I was 24 when a wealthy man I had known for five years as a friend asked me to marry him," she explains. "This is what my brother told me when I agonized over accepting his marriage proposal, 'To marry someone who is your friend is good, and to marry someone you love is better. But to marry someone who loves you is best -- and it doesn't hurt one bit if he has money.' I am still married to that man today, 24 years later, and love did grow."
What About the Other Things in Life?
That what's some iVillagers want to know. iVillager gigijoue puts sex at the top of her list: "I could get married for sex, not money," she says.
Communication is key for iVillager lindsey210: "I sometimes think love and money is not enough. What it all boils down to is the ability to communicate."
Friendship weighs in, too, especially for iVillager laydeelin, who says she would not marry for money. "I married my best friend and a person with heart. As my 10-year-old says, 'We're not rich in money, but we're rich in heart.' And happy, too!"
Love Conquers All
Forget money, say the majority of iVillagers -- love is all that matters. Besides, it's important for women to be able to support themselves financially.
"I am a strong, capable woman who can be financially independent. I do not want to ever rely on someone's bank account," says iVillager kree8ive. "I married for love. That is the only reason to marry in my mind."
"When I was younger, perhaps I would have married for money," says iVillager mom01child, "but with age wisdom is supposed to come. Besides I have investments of my own and I can provide for myself. As you grow older you learn that it's the little things in life which are more valuable, like a loving and faithful spouse, a good friend, a smile, a wave and good life."
iVillager mrsart agrees: "After 20 years of being happily married and hopelessly not rich, I would still have to say that I would not marry for money," says iVillager mrsart. "We have seen ups and downs, but if not for love, we never would have made it. Money can satisfy for a while, but without love you have nothing."