Remember that old playground rhyme? Count on your fiancé having some choice words about you breaking off the engagement. You’ll get through it easier if you allow the anger to bounce off you without reacting to it. Unless his actions precipitated the break -- you caught him cheating or discovered a serious drug problem for instance -- he’s going to be justified in his hurt and anger. So let him rant.
“Don’t react and don’t personalize what he’s saying,” says Lombardo. “Accept that he’s upset. Trying to convince him that he’s wrong to feel what he’s feeling isn’t going to help matters.”