“Or instead of forcing yourself to find topics to talk about, take a walk with your mother or make a date to look at family photos. If you live close by, sign up for a class with her. But start out small. I dove head first into a just-the-two-of-us trip with my mom and there was no escape. LOL. Seriously, the short visits work for me because I can remove myself from a situation that isn’t making me happy.”
Forgive her for the past so you can move on
“ If you have memories of mom treating you badly as a child, it can be hard to accept her advice as an adult. So forgive your mother for your sake, not hers. Once you do, you can let go of the past and say hello to a brighter future.”
“Writing a love letter to your mother is a stroke of genius. Put down on paper al the good she has done for you. Then, the tense issues will be so much easier to digest because they will be grounded in love.”
-- before it starts.
“If your mother makes a habit of criticizing you, be more selective about what you tell her. Why give her fuel to light the fire? It's not your job as a daughter to tell her everything. Doing so won't help your relationship. Creating a life for yourself that you can be proud of will.”
“When my mom starts to get critical, I call a time out. Then, we cool off and discuss whatever subject we were stuck on later.” --from loveslife25