Is Your Mother a Control Freak? 19 Ways to Keep the Peace With a Mom Who Loves to Manage

“My problem is that I get so defensive with my mother. A simple "Hmm so you had your hair cut…" from her, and I hear, “Yuck, what a bad hair cut!" I am learning to take her comments for what they are, and it’s wonderful.” --from friscomom

“From my experience, moms will make you crazy even if you have a great relationship with them. Maybe your Mom is harping on you because she sees you doing things in your life that she always wanted to, but couldn't find the courage to do. At some point I realized that my parents had no idea how frustrating it was to hear all the things I should be doing. When they were giving me annoying advice, it really meant I love you. They. Once I figured that out, it all got so much easier!” --from libzmom

She says things you don’t like so tell her how you (really) feel

“When she starts in on a familiar rant, cut her off. Just say plainly (no hinting) that you will not listen to her if she upsets you anymore. Remind her (just like she used to) that, “If someone doesn’t have anything nice to say, she shouldn’t say it at all.” --from magnagirl

“The best way to handle you mother when she says something that makes you upset is to be firm. Don’t scream or get raving angry even if that is what you want to do. Quiet, firm and consistent gets your point across, honestly.” --from syna99

“When your mother makes comments that you think are inappropriate say, "I'm sorry, but I don’t like the way you are speaking to me. When you can treat me with respect, call me back." I had to leave a 3 x 5 card by the phone to do this without feeling guilty, but it works.”
--from friscomom

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