Do what you (really) want
“My mother and I don't disagree as much as we used to and here’s why. I let her state her opinions and give her mine, but then do as I see fit. I am an adult, 41 years old, and I have confidence in my decisions. Plus, squabbling just isn’t worth it. Who wants to be wasting the remaining years we have together in a power struggle?”
Look at life from the “mom-point-of-view”
“Moms can be wrong. Mine was and I have been with my daughter all the time! Just remember a mom wants the best for you and whatever she does, she does because she loves you that much.”
“My mother still wants to take care of me even though I’m an adult. I know she's just trying to help, but I can't help reacting like a rebellious teenager every time she tells me how to decorate my house, where I should buy my groceries, or that I spent too much on my car or whatever the current topic may be. But she means well, and I love her for all of it.
Just love her, it’s enough
“I have finally accepted the fact that my mother's happiness is her responsibility, not mine. I couldn't have said that when I was 15 or 25 because I was the consummate peacemaker, always trying to keep everybody happy. Thankfully, I got over that and can tell you it really helps.”
“Show your mom love without giving up things you want. When my father died, my mistake was to let my mother depend on me too much. I gave her too much of my life. And the thing is she became much stronger when I let her get a life of her own.”
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