Is Your Mother a Control Freak? 19 Ways to Keep the Peace With a Mom Who Loves to Manage

Do what you (really) want

“My mother and I don't disagree as much as we used to and here’s why. I let her state her opinions and give her mine, but then do as I see fit. I am an adult, 41 years old, and I have confidence in my decisions. Plus, squabbling just isn’t worth it. Who wants to be wasting the remaining years we have together in a power struggle?” --from twoki

Look at life from the “mom-point-of-view”

“Moms can be wrong. Mine was and I have been with my daughter all the time! Just remember a mom wants the best for you and whatever she does, she does because she loves you that much.” --from liliff

“My mother still wants to take care of me even though I’m an adult. I know she's just trying to help, but I can't help reacting like a rebellious teenager every time she tells me how to decorate my house, where I should buy my groceries, or that I spent too much on my car or whatever the current topic may be. But she means well, and I love her for all of it. --from sarah.smiles

Just love her, it’s enough

“I have finally accepted the fact that my mother's happiness is her responsibility, not mine. I couldn't have said that when I was 15 or 25 because I was the consummate peacemaker, always trying to keep everybody happy. Thankfully, I got over that and can tell you it really helps.” --from brah1st

“Show your mom love without giving up things you want. When my father died, my mistake was to let my mother depend on me too much. I gave her too much of my life. And the thing is she became much stronger when I let her get a life of her own.” --from dianast


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